Posts tagged lessons
Listen!
Jul 8th
All women, of all ages, ought to listen to Lindsey Markel’s You Are Among Friends, because it and she are amazing.
Lindsey Markel is one of those people I’ve come across in my internet experience over and over again, and though I’ve never been friends with her, she has always been a personal role model of mine for reasons I cannot really pinpoint. When I read what she writes, whatever it may be, I feel a connection both to her and to myself… I feel empowered. I hope if you are encountering her for the first time, you feel the same way.
Works sucks… that’s why they call it “work.”
Jul 7th
That’s another saying I absolutely hate. You should not hate the work you do, whatever job it is you currently occupy. Work is a part of life. That is to say, life does not stop happening the 8-12 or more hours you are in your work place and it does not start happening the minute you leave. What happens outside of work effects what happens at work, and vice versa. If you are miserable at your job, chances are you are going to carry some of that misery home with you… regardless of what anyone says about “leaving work at work.” It’s a part of your life, and thereby part of you.
It is important, then, to make it worth your while and a valuable experience. Not valuable in a monetary gain sense of the word, but in a “how does this benefit me as a person” way. If you are passionless about your job (and cannot change for whatever reason), then a different attitude toward it must be necessary. Try to extract some positivity out of your situation, because that negative outlook of “work sucks” will just drag you down.
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Jul 6th
I hate that quote. It’s overused and a bit trite, in my opinion. What I find most irritating about it, however, is that it’s true.
I often find myself irritated by people in my life, especially myself, who spend their time complaining about how bad things are, how hard they are, how much things just SUCK for them. Of course, when it isn’t me doing the kvetching, I offer support and I don’t say what I am about to say here as tactlessly… DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Just shut up, and do something to fix your problems. You are not a damsel in distress. No knight in shining armor is coming to save you. Stop being so ungrateful for all that you have been given and utilize what you have!
Although I am the beneficiary of free room, board, and my education thus far and probably should not be lecturing others on personal responsibility… I find myself wanting to on a regular basis. Allow me to say, for definitely not the last time, how grateful I am that all this is provided by my wonderfully generous family.
But, this blog is, however, not a reminder to myself that others should be responsible for themselves, although they (I) should. This is a reminder that I can’t change anybody, I can only change myself. I need to quit focusing on what other people are doing and worry about what and how I am doing for myself. It is impossible and a complete waste of time to try and control or even guide the actions of other people. They’ll never listen, anyway. Generally, most people learn better by example than they do by someone lecturing them, anyway. By worrying about what is happening on my side of the garden fence, then, I am thereby possibly influencing those around me.